Perfectionism

You don't need permission from your healed self to start living your life. You don't need to wait until your energy is perfectly aligned to trust your intuition.

I became the Nancy Drew of my own neuroses, desperately hunting for clues about what was "wrong" with me. Like a spiritual hypochondriac, I diagnosed myself with everything from "ancestral wounds" to "money blocks" to "inner child trauma" to “low self worth.” I grew convinced that if I excavated myself enough, I would find the missing link that was... See more

the real struggle of perfectionism isn’t the impossibility of perfection — it’s the constant feeling of failure.

I’ve long lived as if there’s a silent critic in the corner, watching and grading me. Is my kitchen clean? Do my pants fit? Did I complete everything on my to-do list? Did I journal, meditate, exercise? Did I try hard enough? Did I make ... See more

In the first draft you are allowed to get lost, take a wrong turn, fall a lot, and yell out in frustration. It doesn’t make sense the first time because it is the first time.