Pay attention to what you’re paying attention to

Who gets to write shapes what gets to be written, which shapes what is remembered — that is the making of the collective selective memory we call history, and it is made of words. We invented words to name the world and invented power to apportion the named. It is our inventions that tell the fullest story of our nature. The range of them — the... See more

people building tech products so often miss the point

the point is to help people live a good life, not an efficient life

the point is resonance, not scale

the point is to deliver comfort, not just convenience

the goal is not technology - the goal is human flourishing

There is still a drastic mismatch between the cultural script around marriage, in which a man grudgingly acquiesces to a woman salivating for a diamond, and the reality of marriage, in which men’s lives often get better an women’s lives often get worse. Married men report better mental health and live longer than single men; in contrast, married... See more

dialing up my agency, which I think of as something like “manifest determination to make things happen.”