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Part of this orientation involves identifying some of feminism’s hazards. The sexual revolution, she writes, did not give women more freedom so much as lead to the ubiquity of unequal sex between men and women. Liberal feminism focused mostly on women’s choice and consent, which led, paradoxically, to the preservation of hierarchies of power,... See more
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the very capacity for joy and wonder that makes life worth living — for, as Annie Dillard memorably put it, “how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
Maria Popova • 17 Life-Learnings From 17 Years of the Marginalian
There is still a drastic mismatch between the cultural script around marriage, in which a man grudgingly acquiesces to a woman salivating for a diamond, and the reality of marriage, in which men’s lives often get better an women’s lives often get worse. Married men report better mental health and live longer than single men; in contrast, married... See more
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“I wonder how much harder it would be to get straight women to accept the reality of marriage if they were not first presented with the fantasy of a wedding. I wonder if women today would so readily accept the unequal diminishment of their independence without their sense of self-importance being overinflated first. It feels like a trick, a trick... See more