partnership & reverent relations

No man is an island https://t.co/gfd3LAiIUR

If anything I see myself as a consent-loving relationship anarchist. (as opposed to the origin of relationship anarchy, which was rooted in a naive non-consensual revolutionary attitude)

unpopular opinion: if you, as a woman, feel used by a guy, it’s a sign that you are using him too because he is your mirror if he wasn’t, his behaviour wouldn’t touch you there would be no negative charge. you would be able to walk on by

there is a depth of love that is available to a woman when she can truly claim “I don't need anything about this moment to be different. I can hold your pain, and I can hold my own. this is important”

how to choose to desire your partner a thread

It’s crazy to me that our cultural desiderata for a marriage so wildly diverges from the realities of what I see Ppl are looking to fall madly in love and then “keep the flame alive” for a lifetime. But if “keeping the flame alive” means staying madly in love & having regular amazing sex, well…maybe only 1 out of 1000 couples are like that And so... See more

every woman wants to be & feel chosen by the man she loves

@ThePracPhi it depends on what the flavour of emotion is, and I don't regard emotions as “positive” or “negative” … or if I do, I regard all emotion(s) as fundamentally positive emotion = energy moving in & through the body stuck emotions = energy being unable to move (which hurts)

I was called in to mediate a conflict today, made me think how crucial & high-leverge this skill is. I wonder how many people would know how to do it? I’m not a v sophisticated mediator but I’ll share my mental model here in case it is useful...

expanded version of these ideas https://t.co/ptEbqajnKq