partnership & reverent relations

every m/f relationship is a dance & role-playing game greater polarity = greater contrast b/t the 2 parties’ ways of being modes: giving/receiving leader/follower anxious/avoidant love/fear, etc ppl get—&/or feel—stuck when they feel stuck in x role & can't switch b/t the two

I'm gonna talk about gender dynamics and we're all just going to have to take a deep breath about it take my hand, we'll get through this together. I love you, sweet princes and princesses — let's do this This paragraph has been disproportionately helpful to me for a while now https://t.co/k8xygmua2Z

to be a beautiful woman who can touch ppl's souls is a fantastic responsibility almost everyone will want this thing from you very few will know how to enable it in a way that feels life-giving for you the ppl who do are special. it is these ppl you can touch and should, too

You don’t know what your partner wants & you’re trying ‘everything’ yet they’re locked inside themselves & acting weird? Hint: their Mind-Body desires something they can’t allow themselves to communicate… 🫣🥵😰😶‍🌫️ Why? It feels too scary, disrespectful, or threatening to the status quo. They don’t know how you’ll react; they don’t want to b... See more

attraction in a sustained relationship is a creative act if you see the other person as like a tv show that you’re watching, you’ll eventually get bored to be in a happy relationship is to realize you are the authors, that you are cocreating the someones that you are becoming

- notice what qualities, behaviors etc. u admire about them - notice that u desire to have these qualities in ur life, that they are lacking and u yearn for them. - accept ur crush is at least partially projection of that desire onto them, a clue from ur subconscious about who u long to become - find creative, fun, safe ways to embody those qualit... See more

On Finding Your People: I’m told I have an unusual talent for finding wonderful people. Below is my strategy for having a rich social life in any large city Disclaimer: This will require you acting in a way that is not normal. You may need to decide whether you want to be normal yet lonely or unusual yet connected 0. Treat it as a second job. For... See more

hot take: the biggest problem many men have, as it relates to their relationships with women, is that they take from women without realising that they’re taking a lagging indicator: you can't see or feel her radiance (and neither can she)

today, we talked about betrayal, and I said that betraying you would be betraying myself I love you more than anyone I’ve loved before, but I love myself more and it doesn't matter: either way, the result is the same