Parenting

“What would happen to our lives, our world, if the parent could unconditionally affirm the child, saying in so many words: “You are precious to us; you will always have our love and support; you are here to be who you are; try never to hurt another, but never stop trying to become yourself as fully as you can; when you fall and fail, you are still... See more

James Hollis Quotes (Author of Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life)

So the ideal worker norm — this is a term coined by Joan Acker. The ideal worker norm is the idea that adults today should be fully committed and entirely devoted to their jobs and their employers — available at a moment’s notice, unencumbered by external responsibilities that might diminish from their ability to perform their jobs well.

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Opinion | The Deep Conflict Between Our Work and Parenting Ideals

Caitlyn Collins on The Ezra Klein Show - https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/22/opinion/ezra-klein-podcast-caitlyn-collins.html?showTranscript=1

Mothers have martyred themselves in their children’s names since the beginning of time. We have lived as if she who disappears the most, loves the most. We have been conditioned to prove our love by slowly ceasing to exist... What a terrible burden for children to bear—to know that they are the reason their mother stopped living. What a terrible... See more

Glennon Doyle • Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their children than the unlived life of the parent.

Kulwant Saluja • The Unlived Life: Carl Jung’s Profound Insight into Parental Influence

Carl Jung

The “unlived life” refers to the aspects of a parent’s existence that remain unexplored, unexpressed, or suppressed. These unrealized potentials may stem from various sources, including societal expectations, personal fears, or unresolved traumas.

Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their children than the unlived life of the

Kulwant Saluja • The Unlived Life: Carl Jung’s Profound Insight into Parental Influence

Consider what it takes for a child to develop into a grown-up. We enter our lives in a state of utter dependence on adults. Eventually, God willing, we become adults ourselves, capable of navigating daily life on our own. The journey from the former to the latter, Gill told me, ought to be one of gradually expanding independence. Parents shouldn’t... See more

The Atlantic • Cities Aren’t Built for Kids

I hold on to the words of Jonas Salk who said "our greatest responsibility is to be good ancestors."

But while the changes in a dad’s brain do resemble those in a mom’s, the dad brain also drives contributions that are different from mom’s. For mom, it’s baby talk and staring into the baby’s eyes; for dad, it’s playful touching and behavior, physically moving the baby, and introducing the baby to new objects.34

John Gray PhD • The Boy Crisis

Dads and moms both love their children deeply, but differently.