ORGASMIC PRACTICE

What you are left with, once you have removed envy and exclusion, is tumescence, the sexual energy that can be used for great orgasms. This heightened energy is too strong for many people to handle pleasurably, and that is why a lot of people fight to bring the energy down to a more comfortable level before they have sex. If you can channel this

Pushing out is also beneficial during intercourse. Usually, arousal causes the vaginal walls to balloon out, which tends to shorten the vagina. This can cause the penis to bang against the cervix, which is not only unpleasant but also possibly painful. Pushing out prevents this, and it collapses the vaginal walls so that they touch the penis on all

With someone who comes well you can use the added technique of communicating your intention of taking her higher.

You will have to re-educate or recondition yourself as well as your lover to relax rather than tense. Every time she tenses, gently tell her to relax. You can tell her to push out, which helps people relax; when they tense up, they are usually pulling in.