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3. Get comfortable with asking people to hang out 🤝
Cliff shared a story about how he used to have 2 dinners every night in college to get to know different groups of people.
While this may be easier for extroverts, anyone can develop the skill with a bit of effort :)
You should do your job in such a fashion that others can build on top of it, so they will indeed say, "Yes, I've stood on so and so's shoulders and I saw further." The essence of science is cumulative. By changing a problem slightly you can often do great work rather than merely good work. Instead of attacking isolated problems, I made th
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If you find yourself in a career where your performance is hard to measure, building a network and communicating the quality of your work is just as important as the quality of the work itself.
We’re 2 days out. If this hits, the workshop is for you. Relational Skills for Liberation Saturday, April 26 @ 10AM PST 🎟️ $199 workshop | 📖 $49 workbook | replay included 🤲🏾 Comment “workshop” or tap the link in bio to join. One sponsorship spot available if you’re Black, Queer, trans, DM me. — Your insistence on splitting the bill down to the cent? It might be the reason you’re not building the kind of friendships you long for. When you Venmo someone for gas. Pay a friend for watching your dog. Try to repay every favor immediately… It’s not generosity. It’s transaction. And that’s what individualism taught you: That the only way to stay safe is to keep everything “fair.” But intimacy isn’t math. And community doesn’t thrive on scorekeeping. In this workshop, we’re unlearning the patterns that keep us disconnected, And relearning what reciprocity actually means. If you want depth, you have to give it space to breathe. Join us. ⸻ #relationalhealing #healingfromindividualism #decolonizingrelationships #interdependence #blackqueerhealers #stillhealingstillhere #christabelmintahgalloway #boundarieswithcare #reclaimingconnection #communitycare
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The only true way to expand your world is to inhabit an otherness beyond ourselves. There is one simple word for this: empathy. Don’t let them fool you. Empathy is violent. Empathy is tough. Empathy can rip you open. Once you go there, you can be changed.