Not so obvious
still one of my favorite lines of all time:
and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?
- charles bukowski
In general, having balance in life (and things) is considered good (for us). But what if in doing so, in keeping things in balance, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to dive head-first into our obsessions? What if living a balanced life means living a dull life? What if our souls need a bit more drama, bit more addictive obsession over things our
... See moreHelp-seekers dramatically underestimate how willing others are to help and overestimate how awkward the ask will be. Helpers? The opposite. They predict the ask is coming and that it’s fine
Dr. Todd Kashdan • Stingy Compassion, Quiet Misery, and High Achievers
“The main thing is to know when to stop. [...] When you’re still going good and you come to an interesting place and you know what’s going to happen next, that’s the time to stop. Then leave it alone and don’t think about it; let your subconscious mind do the work.”
Kevin Dickinson • Tap Into the “Hemingway Effect” to Finish What You Start
Additive ideas come to mind quickly and easily, but subtractive ideas require more cognitive effort. Because people are often moving fast and working with the first ideas that come to mind, they end up accepting additive solutions without considering subtraction at all.
Kim Bellard • To Add Is Expected, to Subtract Is Design | by Kim Bellard | UX Collective
Part of the activation energy required to start any task comes from the picture you get in your head when you imagine doing it. It may not be that going for a run is actually costly; but if it feels costly, if the picture in your head looks like a slog, then you will need a bigger expenditure of will to lace up.
Slowness seems to make a special cont... See more
Slowness seems to make a special cont... See more
James Somers • Speed matters: Why working quickly is more important than it seems « the jsomers.net blog
