Mindfulness & Wisdom

The scapegoat role is not assigned by accident. It is often imposed on the innately sensitive and hyper-empathic child because they often are the ‘whistleblower’ who sees through and points out the facade. As the family members ‘discharge’ their resentment, the child becomes the carrier of all the angst and suppressed negativity in the family.

As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. Hiding your core feelings takes an enormous amount of energy, it saps your motivation to pursue worthwhile goals, and it leaves you feeling bored and shut down.

While the image of the event may not return visually, as it often would if you had post traumatic stress disorder, your emotional flashback may show up in other ways such as negative self-talk, a knot in your stomach, tightness in the chest, or a flood of fear, shame and powerlessness.

these parents may manage to fulfil all the requirements society sets regarding primary care, such as providing clothing and schooling, yet in these cases, the lack of outside corroboration of what is happening can make the invisible wounds more psychologically damaging. In some homes, there is even the pressure to maintain the illusion of a happy