"If you want to get men to talk about masculinity, ask them about urinals... Men described a whole host of rules about the process of urinating... Any eye contact was a huge faux pas."
– Liz Plank, For the Love of Men
"Patriarchal culture teaches all of us that we are all natural-born killers but that males are more able to realize the predator role."
– bell hooks, The Will to Change
"Patriarchal assault on the emotional life of boys begins at the moment of their birth."
– Bell Hooks, The Will to Change
"Feminist masculinity presupposes that it is enough for males to be to have value, that they do not have to 'do,' to 'perform,' to be affirmed and loved."
– bell hooks, The Will to Change
"The way some men tend to bottle up their feelings has been observed by researchers. It's called emotional restrictivity, and it's something that is learned, not innate to their biology."
– Liz Plank, For the Love of Men
"In our culture, boys and men are not, nor have they ever been, raised to be intimate."
– bell hooks, The Will to Change
"To indoctrinate boys into the rules of patriarchy, we force them to feel pain and to deny their feelings."
– bell hooks, The Will to Change
"When I asked men how traditional masculinity presented itself, more than one man said they felt this pressure from the women in their lives."
– Liz Plank, For the Love of Men
"They learn that males should dominate females, that strong men should dominate weaker men."