masculinity
What is this thing we’re trying to be? I resist writing about masculinity just as I resist taking aspirin for a headache that has plagued me, on and off, all week. Even as I seek to undermine the social power that feminism has shown me I have—even as I apologize for interrupting, seek out the role of second fiddle, quiet my ego—my masculinity, in... See more
There are many reasons for this shame. But the biggest one, I believe, is that love songs remind us of our vulnerability—especially sad love songs. They are incompatible with macho stances or ultra-hip poses.