Marriage

Perhaps the most striking thing I learned is that the answer to whether today’s marriages are better or worse is “both”: The average marriage today is weaker than the average marriage of yore, in terms of both satisfaction and divorce rate, but the best marriages today are much stronger, in terms of both satisfaction and personal well-being, than t

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I know that if your significant other asks you to do an irritating-for-them task that is not especially difficult, you should be thankful. They have given you an unambiguous way to earn points in the relationship, which is how you get a nice life going. Usually, achieving personal flourishing is more complex than taking out the garbage.

Marriage isn’t a personal growth hack designed to fuel my journey to self-actualization; but it won’t strip me of my unique self, either. It is something quieter. Stronger. Like bedrock. A union of two souls. It encourages, supports, challenges, forgives, and most importantly, makes me more of who I am, not less. Marriage supports union and uniquen... See more

Marriage is one of the most unnatural decisions a human can make. It’s a continuous act of self-denial in our continuous search for self-fulfillment. For the rest of my life, I’m choosing to come second. Life no longer consists of just me. Every thought, every word, every action now prioritizes another person. Like I said. Unnatural. So unnatural, ... See more

There are so many wonderful benefits to committing to building a life with someone that are not knowable until you are in it. 
Men often get this backward, thinking they need to figure out their life on their own before committing to someone because having a partner or family will be some sort of distraction or loss of productivity. But nothin... See more