Marriage and equal partnership
you might stress over Christmas traditions like putting up fairy lights 🎄in the exact perfect arrangement, but your partner might think, Why are we doing this? The kids will just knock them over anyway😧 . To them, it’s not about being lazy; it’s about not seeing the point.
But equality, as Lean In’s Sheryl Sandberg has stated, is not a zero-sum game. Beyond the most immediate and obvious benefit—that I will cease being, as Real memorably put it, a “raving lunatic”—there are so many others. A Cornell study found that couples with young kids who split housework more evenly reported better and more frequent sex than whe
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Right, but Should We Be Scheduling Sex? Esther Perel Answers All the Questions
share.snipd.comIf we start aligning on our family values and having regular conversations about what’s important to us, everything changes. Instead of assuming others don’t care, we build a shared understanding of why things matter—and we can approach tasks as a team rather than individuals just checking boxes.
Here’s what this can look like:
Define Your Family Val... See more
Here’s what this can look like:
Define Your Family Val... See more
Strategies to reduce mental load in a marriage
What are the essential blocks to building a strong foundation between partners and establishing balance for longevity?-Not everything must be said-The combination of empathy and responsibility is very important-Be able to see things from your partners point of view, while also being able to take responsibility for things-The ability to navigate sep... See more
Tim Ferriss • Intimacy, Emotional Baggage, Relationship Longevity, and More – Esther Perel on The Tim Ferriss Show
“Darby Saxbe, a psychology professor at the University of Southern California, explains to me that couples often fall into a pattern of demand and retreat—most often, the woman demands and the man retreats. This dynamic has arisen, she says, because men have less to gain by changing their behavior, while women are more likely to want to alter the s... See more
I feel like that I start asking my husband “which” he wants to do. As in “do you want to give the kid a bath in 10 minutes or unload and re-load the dishwasher now?” I let him choose but hold him responsible for whichever. It feels so silly sometimes, but I have found that’s the only way I get the help I need.
Darcy Lockman • All the Rage
Recent data published in the Journal of Marriage and Family suggests that couples in which men do more than a third of the household work have more sex than those who do less, and that these relatively egalitarian couples are the only ones to have experienced an increase in sexual frequency during three decades over which sex within marriage has de
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Real frowns. “But she’s the after-school mom and the cook and the cleaner-upper,” he says. “That would be fine if she didn’t work, but not if you’re both working. What I see happening with guys is ‘Don’t mess with me—I need sleep and R&R so I can fight the dragons for my family.’ But she’s fighting the dragons now, too.” In the old days, he goe
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