language
Love bombing, gaslighting, and the problem with pathologising dating talk
James Greigdazeddigital.com
“His own opinion, which he does not air, is that the origin of speech lie in song, and the origins of song in the need to fill out with sound the overlarge and rather empty human soul.”
― J.M. Coetzee, Disgrace
― J.M. Coetzee, Disgrace
Disgrace Quotes by J.M. Coetzee
Sometimes you want to say things, and you’re missing an idea to make them with, and missing a word to make the idea with. In the beginning was the word. That’s how somebody tried to explain it once. Until something is named, it doesn’t exist.
To share parts of ourselves as a way of undoing aloneness, as a method of connection, as a form of putting words to something someone else might not yet have the words for, feels like shining a flashlight on something that would otherwise stay hidden, or as Ocean Vuong said, building fire escapes for each other.
That's what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.
-The God of Small Things, Arundhati Roy
a beautiful passage from sublime’s innaugural zine on why language matters, in the context of building a different web.