journaling

She started with some questions: What do you do? What are the qualities with which you do it? And what is the result or impact?

• How can I use this experience?


• How does this experience relate to other situations I've been in? What can I learn for that situation?


• Knowing what I know now, what would I do differently next time?

What's the one action that moves the needle more than 100 other actions? What's the one choice that renders 1000 other choices irrelevant?

Most things are not worth optimizing. Master the big moves and move quickly and peacefully through the other stuff.

it allows us to focus on how—rather than if—our racism is manifest. When we move beyond the good/bad binary, we can become eager to identify our racist patterns because interrupting those patterns becomes more important than managing how we think we look to others.

— Describe any challenges you faced while trying to plan your week (looking at the three categories of

career, relationships, and self).

— Did life go according to plan? How did you deal with anything challenging or unexpected?

— Will you modify the rule to Plan on Fridays? How likely are you to continue using the rule in your life?

— If you haven’t al

This thing that I am unhappy about... is it actually hard to change or is it simply hard to have the courage to change it?

When designing a character, it’s often useful to think of them in terms of their theory of control. How have they learned to control the world? When unexpected change strikes, what’s their automatic go-to tactic for wrestling with the chaos? What’s their default, flawed response? The answer, as we’ve just seen, comes from that character’s core beli

Personality has a powerful influence over our theory of control. Different personalities have different go-to tactics for controlling the environment of people. When unexpected change threatens, some are more likely to jump to aggression and violence, some charm, some flirtation, others will argue or withdraw or become infantile or try to negotiate

1 Question For You

How can I use the negative experiences in my life to drive me? What fuel can I draw from my failures? What lessons can I take from my grief? What insights can I extract from my embarrassments?