it's ok not to be understood

be less worried about being misunderstood, and more focused on saying what you actually think and feel. the paradox of over-correcting for approval/legibility is that trying too hard to make sense dilutes the message and forces the other person to work harder to understand you.

Drop the need to be understood. You give so much power away by over-explaining or sugar coating your responses to make your truth taste sweeter to every single person. Someone disagrees? Awesome. You can’t step into the light without triggering someone’s shadow.