INFJ

Workaholism can be so tempting because it distracts from and suppresses the real issue, and much of the time the real issue is self-doubt, and sometimes even self-hatred. I see this in my INFJ clients who are super high achievers, but aren’t achieving the things they really care about.

But for some INFJs it meant suddenly leaving their old church and joining a new one. Or traveling alone to a foreign country they had never visited before. Or withdrawing completely from the world for a while and severing relationship connections that had been entrenched for years.

Once Sensitive Intuitives can see themselves as they really are, not weird but instead highly intelligent, things change dramatically for them. A slowly growing sense of confidence in themselves and their pursuits—including writing—begins to take form.

This is one of the greatest gifts of the INFJ, although sometimes it can feel like a curse. We are pattern-hunters. We are in constant search mode. We are like a heat-seeking missile when it comes to unearthing the depths of the emotional psyche of others. We let our subconscious draw in big gulps of information about people and then we turn inward

As an INFJ, I’m of the Idealist Temperament, which is only about 15% of the population. The things that motivate Idealists are not the things that motivate the other 75%.

If you’re still not sure where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum, you can assess yourself here. Answer each question “true” or “false,” choosing the answer that applies to you more often than not.* 1. _______ I prefer one-on-one conversations to group activities. 2. _______ I often prefer to express myself in writing. 3. _______ I enjoy

Our extreme work drive coupled with the seeds of self-doubt can be a toxic combination.

being the hardest worker at their job while also supporting friends and family members in whatever way they can. INFJs can be relied on, a trait that quickly makes itself apparent to people. And rely on the INFJ they do. But because INFJs hate saying no and sometimes have trouble being firm about their boundaries, they’re vulnerable to others

All of this plays into the self-doubt trap. The Sensitive Intuitive is born with an innate ability to see all sides of a situation, which helps them in their role of counseling people, but can hinder them when it comes to preserving their own sense of healthy self esteem. Just like they can see every facet of how a situation might play out in the