Ideas to share in the mangofries Newsletter

But this logic, Mancey says, doesn’t just “promote hyper-individualism” and encourage us to “treat ourselves like startups: track everything, optimise endlessly, squeeze every ounce of value out of our time”. Taken to its extreme, she argues, it can “erode our connections with others.

The Psychology of Craving

Much of our success and happiness in life comes down to how we manage cravings—sudden intense desires for everything from chocolate and chardonnay to sex and revenge. But if we want to avoid destructive cravings (and cultivate healthy cravings), it helps to understand the psychology behind them...

we are sold a map early on. even if no one explicitly hands it to us, it’s there. in the way people talk about success and in the way teachers reward obedience. sometimes we see it in the way movies end with weddings and real estate. it starts early. you go to school, you pick a college, a major, a job that makes sense on paper. you find the person... See more

In most 5-to-9 videos, we get little sense of people’s actual jobs, save for the times they log back on in the evening, or the glimpses they show of their side gigs as content creators. What they highlight instead is the way a work mindset can follow you home and shape your leisure in its image. For many Americans, work is the focus of life, the... See more

Most writing, of course, isn’t exclusive in terms of access, but in terms of time . There’s something special about every word written by a human because they chose to do this thing instead of anything else. Something moved them, irked them, inspired them, possessed them, and then electricity shot everywhere in their brain and then—crucially—they... See more