Human behavior
How we think and feel
Human behavior
Curiosity is a stance well suited to the inherent unpredictability of life with others, because it can be satisfied by their behaving in ways you like or dislike—whereas the stance of demanding a certain result is frustrated each time things fail to go your way.
Oliver Burkeman • Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
For many of us, feelings of deficiency are right around the corner. It doesn’t take much--just hearing of someone else’s accomplishments, being criticized, getting into an argument, making a mistake at work--to make us feel that we are not okay. Beginning to understand how our lives have become ensnared in this trance of unworthiness is our first... See more
Tara Brach • Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of R.A.I.N.
A poem Rockefeller used to recite in the office:
A wise old owl lived in an oak,
The more he saw the less he spoke,
The less he spoke, the more he heard,
Why aren’t we all like that old... See more
Morgan Houselx.comTo neglect any one of the three marriages is to impoverish them all, because they are not actually separate commitments but different expressions of the way each individual belongs to the world.
David Whyte • The Three Marriages: Reimagining Work, Self and Relationship
When I see people described as progressive but they spend more energy hating the rich (e.g. landlords) versus helping people (e.g. pushing for more market rate housing), I’m reminded that people love being cruel while protected by the cloak of righteousness.
X. It’s what’s happening
Behavioral addiction consists of six ingredients: compelling goals that are just beyond reach; irresistible and unpredictable positive feedback; a sense of incremental progress and improvement; tasks that become slowly more difficult over time; unresolved tensions that demand resolution; and strong social connections.