How To Think, Feel, Do

Questions to ask yourself include: Do I believe this? If this is true, what else might be true? How could I prove this right? How can I prove this wrong? What other books or material should I read to learn more about this topic?

What is emotional maturity, or more specifically, emotionally healthy spirituality?

It’s being self-aware. It’s recognizing destructive thoughts patterns. It’s separating emotions and feelings from reality. It’s the ability to engage in conversations with people, especially people you disagree with, in a civil way. It’s maintaining healthy relations

When you worry, you first of all picture some undesirable future outcome, or goal, very vividly in your imagination. You use no effort or willpower. But you keep dwelling on the "end result." You keep thinking about it-dwelling on it picturing it to yourself as a "possibility." You play with the idea that it “might happen."

No one benefits from you scrolling on your phone and feeling sad and then going to Starbucks.

The antidote is figuring out what you care about, what you're good at, and what you like doing that can make the world a little bit better.

Then, really do that thing.

You can’t do everything, but there are a few things you can do really well. You have to

Another thing to consider when trying to become perceptive is that the way you learn in school—where the material is sequenced in a curriculum so that you are first exposed to simple examples and later to more complex ones—tends to make you less perceptive.

To prevent getting biased, before you Google anything, start with a pen and paper and write down your own analysis and conclusions about the problem at hand.

• The context is smarter than you . It holds more nuance and information than you can fit in your head. Collaborate with it.

I find for myself that my first thought is never my best thought. My first thought is always someone else’s; it’s always what I’ve already heard about the subject, always the conventional wisdom. It’s only by concentrating, sticking to the question, being patient, letting all the parts of my mind come into play, that I arrive at an original idea. B