how to be a better friend/how to create kinship

If something has gone sideways in your friendship, ask your friend to tell you what they’re feeling and thinking. Then be quiet and listen. Resist the urge to interrupt, defend, or answer back. Let them get out everything they need to say. After you clarify that you’ve understood them correctly by repeating back what you heard, ask, “Is it okay if

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For one week, every time you think about looking something up online, ask someone instead. You can tell them about your experiment so they don’t think you’re a total weirdo. Ask them if they know the answer—and they’re not allowed to look on the internet either. Have a conversation about it. Share your best guesses. Have the conversations you would

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