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The Brilliance of Attachment
The text explores attachment theory, detailing secure and insecure attachment styles, their development in children, and their impact on emotional regulation and relationships throughout life.
robyngobbel.comF L E X I B I L I T Y They are good at providing structure and predictability yet comfortable veering off when necessary
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
We need connection to survive. Physically. First and foremost, our attachment system keeps us alive.
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
Children become attached to whoever functions as their primary caregiver. But the nature of that attachment—whether it is secure or insecure—makes a huge difference over the course of a child’s life. Secure attachment develops when caregiving includes emotional attunement. Attunement starts at the most subtle physical levels of interaction between
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Lying
Explores the reasons behind lying, emphasizing that it often stems from a lack of safety, both relational and emotional, and encourages understanding dysregulation over focusing solely on honesty.
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C A P A C I T Y F O R R E P A I R No caregiver is perfect and secure attachment does not come from an adult who meets their child’s needs all the time. Secure attachment is actually largely born out of the times a caregiver initiates a repair after they’ve had some sort of rupture with a child. Adults with secure attachment can see a rupture has oc... See more
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
Modern attachment theories, such as those proposed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, emphasize how stable, responsive caregivers create a “secure base” from which individuals can explore the world and cope with stress. The biblical themes mentioned—hopeful, rooted, patient, secure, calm—can be seen as spiritual parallels to this concept of a secur
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1 There shall come forth a shoot from the stump of Jesse, and a branch from his roots shall bear fruit.
Isaiah 54:10
10 For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,”
says the LORD, who has compassion on you.
Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums, Oh my!
Explores three brain pathways—Owl, Watchdog, and Possum—in children, focusing on how felt safety influences behavior and strategies for managing big, baffling behaviors through brain-body-sensory approaches.
robyngobbel.comOwl, Watchdog, Possum
These beliefs about ourselves, the world, and other people ultimately become like a pair of colored glasses we can never take off or even know we are wearing. They impact how we see and experience everything.