HealthyAttachment
Children become attached to whoever functions as their primary caregiver. But the nature of that attachment—whether it is secure or insecure—makes a huge difference over the course of a child’s life. Secure attachment develops when caregiving includes emotional attunement. Attunement starts at the most subtle physical levels of interaction between
... See moreBessel van der Kolk • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
We need connection to survive. Physically. First and foremost, our attachment system keeps us alive.
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
The Brilliance of Attachment
The text explores attachment theory, detailing secure and insecure attachment styles, their development in children, and their impact on emotional regulation and relationships throughout life.
robyngobbel.comAs the baby explores the world or begins to create separation from their caregiver with insecure anxious attachment, this distresses the caregiver who often has subtle (or not so subtle) behaviors of dysregulation. The baby figures this out quickly, and because their primary concern is keeping their caregiver regulated so that they can experience b... See more
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
the child adapts their behavior to keep the adults regulated rather than self-regulation…
E M O T I O N R E G U L A T I O N While certainly no human is emotionally regulated all the time, adults with secure attachment have a pretty wide capacity for staying regulated in the face of their child’s dysregulation. This is super important because if a crying baby (dysregulated) always created significant dysregulation in their caregiver, the... See more
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
Modern attachment theories, such as those proposed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, emphasize how stable, responsive caregivers create a “secure base” from which individuals can explore the world and cope with stress. The biblical themes mentioned—hopeful, rooted, patient, secure, calm—can be seen as spiritual parallels to this concept of a secur
... See moreIsaiah 11:1
1 There shall come forth a shoot from the stump of Jesse, and a branch from his roots shall bear fruit.
Isaiah 54:10
10 For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,”
says the LORD, who has compassion on you.
SECURE ATTACHMENT = ATTUNEMENT + RUPTURE + REPAIR
Robyn Gobbel • The Brilliance of Attachment
Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums, Oh my!
Explores three brain pathways—Owl, Watchdog, and Possum—in children, focusing on how felt safety influences behavior and strategies for managing big, baffling behaviors through brain-body-sensory approaches.
robyngobbel.comOwl, Watchdog, Possum
These beliefs about ourselves, the world, and other people ultimately become like a pair of colored glasses we can never take off or even know we are wearing. They impact how we see and experience everything.