Health - Mental
Maintenance and healing
Health - Mental
Since her early wound involved ignoring her sensations and emotions — especially those of the needy child — her healing requires accepting, loving, and valuing all of those parts. And eventually, it includes uncovering and grieving her early heartbreak at not being valued or seen. Her healing has to be physically embodied: it must be a felt sense
... See moreSteven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
The perception that vulnerability is weakness is the most widely accepted myth about vulnerability and the most dangerous. When we spend our lives pushing away and protecting ourselves from feeling vulnerable or from being perceived as too emotional, we feel contempt when others are less capable or willing to mask feelings, suck it up, and soldier... See more
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me,
... See more“I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter." I don't want it to be something that just passes.... See more
“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person.
Why All Love Stories Are Destined to End in Tragedy
Attachment disorders are at their core a form of object impermanence. The insecurely attached babies experience their reliance on their caregiver as ephemeral. They do not trust it will continue. They do not trust she will return. They do not trust their needs will be met. When she leaves the room, she might as well cease to exist. Physical... See more
Small Wire • Romance plot
Sometimes the most dangerous thing for kids is the silence that allows them to construct their own stories
Brené Brown • Braving the Wilderness
“The part of yourself that you’re holding back from the relationship, is the part of yourself that needs to be healed in the relationship.”
In one pattern, called “avoidant attachment,” the infants look like nothing really bothers them—they don’t cry when their mother goes away and they ignore her when she comes back. However, this does not mean that they are unaffected. In fact, their chronically increased heart rates show that they are in a constant state of hyperarousal.