Healing Journey
Mental health reminders. Notes and observations on wellness.
Healing Journey
It turns out my really big problem was thinking I might one day get rid of all my problems, when the truth is that there's no escaping the mucky, malodorous compost-heap of this reality. Which is OK, actually. Compost is the stuff that helps things grow.
Oliver Burkeman • What if You Never Sort Your Life Out? | Oliver Burkeman
Wanting things to be different and accepting things as they are currently are not necessarily opposite actions. Both can be done simultaneously.
i wish more people knew psychological impact of using the word “but” -
it can negate all that came before it in the listener’s ears. often acting as an unintentional dismissal
The “no buts or shoulds” rule of group DBT continues to follow me everywhere…
Geoffrey Roberts's emotional word wheel helps describe emotions. https://t.co/2m5Lx9R3km
Ask culture and guess culture are vastly different in behavior and expectations. Here are some highlights:
Ask culture expectations
Ask culture expectations
- Ask for what you want, even if it seems out of reach or like a big unreasonable request
- Take care of your own needs, and others will take care of theirs
- It’s fine to make requests that people will probably say no to
- People
Jean Hsu • Ask vs Guess Culture
Coming to terms with climate change and its effects while living in constant uncertainty about the world’s future is challenging for any human being.
How to cope with climate anxiety | Psyche Guides
Gramsci described the dialectic I am reaching for when he said we should practise pessimism of the intellect and optimism of the will, a disjunction that will only work if both ends of the dialectic stay in touch with each other.
Richard Holloway • Stories We Tell Ourselves: Making Meaning in a Meaningless Universe
“Walking the middle path” DBT concept
And when I practice letting go of how I think things are supposed to look and instead cultivate a trust in the unfolding that is taking place, often in unseen ways, the Here-ness of challenge or pain or depression or grief or (anything) softens even 5%, and that 5% adds up fast when I don’t assume it’s nothing.