Healing Journey
Mental health reminders. Notes and observations on wellness.
Healing Journey
Ask culture and guess culture are vastly different in behavior and expectations. Here are some highlights:
Ask culture expectations
Ask culture expectations
- Ask for what you want, even if it seems out of reach or like a big unreasonable request
- Take care of your own needs, and others will take care of theirs
- It’s fine to make requests that people will probably say no to
- People
Jean Hsu • Ask vs Guess Culture
Geoffrey Roberts's emotional word wheel helps describe emotions. https://t.co/2m5Lx9R3km
Too often, we think of notebooks as a way-station: a necessary stop en-route to the perfected, polished work of art. But what if the notebook is the work of art? What if the process of taking notes is the point?
Doing mind vs. Being mind
i wish more people knew psychological impact of using the word “but” -
it can negate all that came before it in the listener’s ears. often acting as an unintentional dismissal
The “no buts or shoulds” rule of group DBT continues to follow me everywhere…
It turns out my really big problem was thinking I might one day get rid of all my problems, when the truth is that there's no escaping the mucky, malodorous compost-heap of this reality. Which is OK, actually. Compost is the stuff that helps things grow.
Oliver Burkeman • What if You Never Sort Your Life Out? | Oliver Burkeman
Wanting things to be different and accepting things as they are currently are not necessarily opposite actions. Both can be done simultaneously.
Gramsci described the dialectic I am reaching for when he said we should practise pessimism of the intellect and optimism of the will, a disjunction that will only work if both ends of the dialectic stay in touch with each other.
Richard Holloway • Stories We Tell Ourselves: Making Meaning in a Meaningless Universe
“Walking the middle path” DBT concept
If you're struggling with negative thoughts, achieving flow is probably the best medicine. Contrary to popular wisdom, forced positive thinking often makes things worse.