what i had to do was a combination of exposure therapy (spending a bit more than felt comfortable) + emotional work:
i’d notice my tendency to choose discomfort over spending money → spend → freak out → explore / be with the feeling
also, active gratitude whenever i spent
“The more you become a connoisseur of gratitude, the less you are a victim of resentment, depression, and despair. Gratitude will act as an elixir that will gradually dissolve the hard shell of your ego–your need to possess and control—and transform you into a generous being. The sense of gratitude produces true spiritual alchemy, makes us... See more
yep, we've been doing it at the end of our morning routine so we're usually already sitting down, outside & after meditation, then we just turn to face each other and take turns sharing what we're feeling* grateful for
*the key's been speaking only from feeling. meaning pausing and noticing what we feel truthfully... See more
“Asking for help with shame says: You have the power over me. Asking with condescension says: I have the power over you. But asking for help with gratitude says: We have the power to help each other.”