what i had to do was a combination of exposure therapy (spending a bit more than felt comfortable) + emotional work:
i’d notice my tendency to choose discomfort over spending money → spend → freak out → explore / be with the feeling
also, active gratitude whenever i spent
“Asking for help with shame says: You have the power over me. Asking with condescension says: I have the power over you. But asking for help with gratitude says: We have the power to help each other.”