Friends and family

you might stress over Christmas traditions like putting up fairy lights 🎄in the exact perfect arrangement, but your partner might think, Why are we doing this? The kids will just knock them over anyway😧 . To them, it’s not about being lazy; it’s about not seeing the point.

Personal importance, or

taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because

we make the assumption that everything is about ‘me’,” he wrote. “Noth-

ing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All

people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely

different world from the one we live... See more

Any skill or attribute you claim makes you unique—”I’m really funny”, “I’m good at shining shoes”, “I’m an attentive lover”—you can always find someone else better than you on that dimension. They’re funnier, fitter, richer, sexier, smarter, or better at shining shoes than you are. We can’t help but desperately compete in this unwinnable game of ha... See more