Parenting and family stuff

I think parenting young children (and old ones, I’ve heard) is a little like climbing Mount Everest. Brave, adventurous souls try it because they’ve heard there’s magic in the climb. They try because they believe that finishing, or even attempting the climb are impressive accomplishments. They try because during the climb, if they allow themselves... See more

Dont force your kid to blindly adhere to your rules, if they learn to blindly follow you they will not be able to make rational decisions for themselves. I always said "my rules are law, unless you can tell me reasonably why you have a better idea" this gets kids thinking about their situation, and not just acting out against you. Shows them that

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Punishment and appeasement are both short-term, reactive solutions as opposed to long-term, proactive solutions. Regardless of whether the parent or teacher chooses punishment or appeasement, the child misses countless opportunities to build competency in crucial life skills such as self-discipline, self-control, and conflict-resolution.

I imagine some mythic women in floral dresses who simply slide into motherhood, goddesses unbothered by the smell of poop, at home in any damp cave. These are the “naturals”: the mom on a transatlantic flight handling three small children, or the unwashed breastfeeding mom who says she wouldn’t mind “another one.” But then there are others, such as... See more

My advice to fathers-to-be: work smart and hard leading up to birth, build as much momentum in your meditation practice as possible, strengthen your back muscles (never skip leg day), expect to get 3x less done after birth, take time to ground your nervous system daily, and remember your primary job in the early days is supporting the mother.