Parenting and family stuff

good stuff from around the internet on raising good kids, building a family, etc.

“We have overprotected our kids in the real world and under-protected them online.” – Jonathan Haidt

Reading for pleasure was the lodestar that governed my entire teaching process. A lot of other “teach your child to read” methods are based on modular lessons and exercises, which makes learning to read separate from what it’s all about, which is enjoying books. Comparatively, I did it by mostly reading books together, because it turns out reading... See more

Sam Liebeskind

getting upset at your kids for making mistakes doesn't teach them to not make mistakes, it teaches them to hide their mistakes

sari

The Stories That Bind Us (Published 2013)

Bruce Feiler nytimes.com

SSam Liebeskind

In the mid-1990s, Dr. Marshall Duke and Dr. Robyn Fivush developed a measure called “Do You Know?” It had a series of 20 questions, including: Do you know where your grandparents grew up? Do you know where your mom and dad went to high school? Do you know where your parents met? Do you know an illness or something terrible that happened in your family? Do you know the story of your birth? It turned out that having the answers to these questions was the single best predictor of children’s emotional health and happiness. Children who know more about their families tend to do better when they face challenges, be more resilient, and moderate the effects of stress. Our family’s story—our history—is linked to our own personal identity and knowing that we belong to a larger family. “Children who have the most self-confidence have . . . a strong 'intergenerational self.’ They know they belong to something bigger than themselves,” said Dr. Duke…