Parenting and family stuff
good stuff from around the internet on raising good kids, building a family, etc.
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Parenting and family stuff
Raising Thoughtful & Curious Kids
Parenting is hard, and I want to keep track of some fundamentals amidst the noise of short-term advice.
Charlie Gedeon • 7 cards
My advice to fathers-to-be: work smart and hard leading up to birth, build as much momentum in your meditation practice as possible, strengthen your back muscles (never skip leg day), expect to get 3x less done after birth, take time to ground your nervous system daily, and remember your primary job in the early days is supporting the mother.
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A question I often get asked is how I raised my 2 daughters. People who meet them are always impressed and want to know our techniques.
Answer: My wife and I never dealt punishment.
And if we ever shamed them, we apologized immediately.
How we parented instead ↓
Joe Hudsonx.com“Having parented successfully in the past may rank as a satisfying accomplishment retrospectively; but the bulk of research finds that being a parent, while it is happening, does not increase life satisfaction and may reduce it.”
Jonathan Rauch • The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
The questions from the article:
“What did you learn today?” vs. “What did you disagree with today?”
“What did you accomplish this week?” vs. “What did you fail at this week?”
“Here’s how you do that.” vs. “How would you solve this problem?”
“Here’s your new kindergarten” vs. “What kindergarten do you want to attend?”
“That’s just the way it is.” vs. “Great question. Why don’t you figure out the answer?”
“You can’t do that.” vs. “What would it take to do that?”
“Did you make a new friend today?” vs. “How did you help someone today?”
The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure
Greg Lukianoff • 1 highlight
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