Parenting and family stuff
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Parenting and family stuff
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The Tim Ferriss Show Transcripts: Mark Zuckerberg on Long-Term Strategy, Business and Parenting Principles, Personal Energy Management, Building the Metaverse, Seeking Awe, the Role of Religion, Solving Deep Technical Challenges (e.g., AR), and More (#582)
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Dont force your kid to blindly adhere to your rules, if they learn to blindly follow you they will not be able to make rational decisions for themselves. I always said "my rules are law, unless you can tell me reasonably why you have a better idea" this gets kids thinking about their situation, and not just acting out against you. Shows them that y
... See moreIt’s not my job to entertain the children. It’s their job to be part of the team
Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans a book by Michaeleen Doucleff
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The questions from the article:
“What did you learn today?” vs. “What did you disagree with today?”
“What did you accomplish this week?” vs. “What did you fail at this week?”
“Here’s how you do that.” vs. “How would you solve this problem?”
“Here’s your new kindergarten” vs. “What kindergarten do you want to attend?”
“That’s just the way it is.” vs. “Great question. Why don’t you figure out the answer?”
“You can’t do that.” vs. “What would it take to do that?”
“Did you make a new friend today?” vs. “How did you help someone today?”
“Children are not our projects. They are to share life with.”
-from On Being interview with Sara Hendren
What kids are dying from today are mainly car crashes and suicides, not playing outside unsupervised with friends. Parents are worrying about the wrong causes of injuries and harm. In fact, the very strategies that parents use to try to keep their children safe – driving them around, maximizing supervision, and minimizing freedom – are unintentionally increasing the likelihood of injuries and even death.
The solutions are both simple and hard. We know what children need to thrive. The three key ingredients necessary for thriving play environments are Time, Space, and Freedom.
“Instead of asking your child what they learned today, ask them who they helped today.”
― Kevin Kelly