Parenting and family stuff
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Parenting and family stuff
When moms out-earn their husbands, they gain more housework, study says
Washington Postwashingtonpost.com
Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence —like a gift—by praising their brains and talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children... See more
Carol Dweck • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
In the mid-1990s, Dr. Marshall Duke and Dr. Robyn Fivush developed a measure called “Do You Know?” It had a series of 20 questions, including: Do you know where your grandparents grew up? Do you know where your mom and dad went to high school? Do you know where your parents met? Do you know an illness or something terrible that happened in your family? Do you know the story of your birth? It turned out that having the answers to these questions was the single best predictor of children’s emotional health and happiness. Children who know more about their families tend to do better when they face challenges, be more resilient, and moderate the effects of stress. Our family’s story—our history—is linked to our own personal identity and knowing that we belong to a larger family. “Children who have the most self-confidence have . . . a strong 'intergenerational self.’ They know they belong to something bigger than themselves,” said Dr. Duke…
Mothers with the most education report the highest stress and tiredness and the lowest happiness and meaning
15) Family walks after meals should be non negotiable. They improve insulin sensitivity, recovery from workouts, and overall mood.
16) Hydration starts the days before exercise, not the morning of.
17) Rarely is the area of pain the source of your problem.
Chris Boettcherx.comBroadening his inputs
I want him to have a wide range of inputs into his senses.
We go play in as many different forests, beaches, mountains, and towns as possible, touching and smelling everything we can.
I want him to have a wide range of inputs into his senses.
We go play in as many different forests, beaches, mountains, and towns as possible, touching and smelling everything we can.
Parenting : Who is it really for?
Dont force your kid to blindly adhere to your rules, if they learn to blindly follow you they will not be able to make rational decisions for themselves. I always said "my rules are law, unless you can tell me reasonably why you have a better idea" this gets kids thinking about their situation, and not just acting out against you. Shows them that
... See moreHelp create systems instead of goals, and show kids that they can keep exploring, finding linkages in hidden spaces. “Teach kids freedom, and that they have agency.”