“The fact is, most of the freedom I had before kids, I never used. I paid for it in loneliness, but I never used it.I had plenty of happy times before I had kids. But if I count up happy moments, not just potential happiness but actual happy moments, there are more after kids than before. Now I practically have it on tap, almost any bedtime.”
Help create systems instead of goals, and show kids that they can keep exploring, finding linkages in hidden spaces. “Teach kids freedom, and that they have agency.”
A question I often get asked is how I raised my 2 daughters. People who meet them are always impressed and want to know our techniques.
Answer: My wife and I never dealt punishment.
And if we ever shamed them, we apologized immediately.
How we parented instead ↓
Since it is so likely that children will meet cruel enemies, let them at least have heard of brave knights and heroic courage.
— C. S. Lewis, “On Stories” https://t.co/wGA8Ixcmye