Parenting and family stuff
good stuff from around the internet on raising good kids, building a family, etc.
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Parenting and family stuff
For what it’s worth, in raising our own kids we created an effective, balanced, common-sense approach based not on rules but on three principles. Treat everyone with respect. Whatever you undertake, give it your best effort. You, and only you, are accountable for your actions.
In short, good values have to be grown from the inside out. Attempts to short-circuit this process by dangling rewards in front of children are at best ineffective, and at worst counterproductive. Children are likely to become enthusiastic, lifelong learners as a result of being provided with an engaging curriculum; a safe, caring community in... See more
Alfie Kohn • The Risks of Rewards
“Bad behavior is when feelings are greater than skills”
Instead of punishing behaviors, level up skills
Dr. Becky
In the mid-1990s, Dr. Marshall Duke and Dr. Robyn Fivush developed a measure called “Do You Know?” It had a series of 20 questions, including: Do you know where your grandparents grew up? Do you know where your mom and dad went to high school? Do you know where your parents met? Do you know an illness or something terrible that happened in your family? Do you know the story of your birth? It turned out that having the answers to these questions was the single best predictor of children’s emotional health and happiness. Children who know more about their families tend to do better when they face challenges, be more resilient, and moderate the effects of stress. Our family’s story—our history—is linked to our own personal identity and knowing that we belong to a larger family. “Children who have the most self-confidence have . . . a strong 'intergenerational self.’ They know they belong to something bigger than themselves,” said Dr. Duke…
Microschool K-8th Grade: Learn Without Limits | Primer
primer.com
Adele Faber, 96, Who Helped Change How Parents Talk to Children, Dies
nytimes.com