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breaking out of this requires understanding that you’re not just fighting habits. you’re fighting your brain’s entire predictive model of who you are.

doing something once with massive effort doesn’t create lasting change. you haven’t built enough myelin. the pathway is still weak.

but doing something small consistently over a long period of time builds that myelin up layer by layer until the pathway is strong enough to compete with and eventually replace the old one.

the people who successfully... See more

Dating requires a few factors to happen: disposable income, a stable schedule, and housing privacy. Late stage conditions produce irregular work hours, high costs of living relative to wages, and people living with their parents or roommates into mid-life. Relationships, or even casual sex, become logistical drains.

Parasociality becomes a pressure... See more

Parasociality emerges because real relationships require stability and time investment — neither accessible to the average Japanese worker.