emotional intelligence

Blaming and complaining are mixtures of genuine grief and defensive anger.

🧵UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH TOXIC SHAME: A GUIDE 🧵 This is a mega thread on the theory and mechanics behind shame, along with some techniques and practices for how to work with and clear it from the mind and body.

There is a skill of how to access information from your emotions. Most people don’t know how. They literally cannot read their feelings, in the same way that illiterates cannot read words. Intellectuals are often illiterate *plus* deny it’s possible to learn to read. 1/

Schools are good at teaching and measuring intelligence, so that’s what people tend to value and aspire to. But in almost any field, smarts is what gets rewarded long term.

You cannot measure empathy like you can SAT scores, so it’s not surprising that one is given more weight on resumes. But who is more likely to succeed in life – a person whose ma... See more

When I train leaders in empathy, one of the first hurdles I need to get over is this stereotype that empathy is too soft and squishy for the work environment. It’s easy to debunk that. There are decades of evidence showing that empathy is a workplace superpower.

Employees who believe their organizations, and especially their managers, are empathic t... See more

When we feel stressed, anxious, irritated, or angry, one of the things that happens to the mind is that it shrinks down and zooms in on the challenge at hand—the stressful moment, the emotion we don’t want to feel. There’s a researcher, Andrew Huberman at Stanford, who calls this “the soda straw view” of the mind. This is the view of stress. When w

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