emotional intelligence

There is an effective middle ground where anger can be leveraged to make positive change. When anger’s heat burns brightest is the time to make plans

Mentalizing Emotions Wheel https://t.co/7F7mOdoBzf

One of the things that happens as boys are growing up is they learn about a very restrictive version of masculinity, a list of things that you’re not allowed to do or say. Particularly around emotions: You’re allowed to be angry, and you might be able to cry if something’s really bad — like a sports team you’re on loses a really important game, or... See more

You’re allowed to figure out what emotions you’re feeling in broadly the same way you would with anyone else, which is by paying attention to what you’re actually doing. If you’re behaving in an angry way, maybe you’re actually angry.