A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.”
Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations.
Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.
🧵UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH TOXIC SHAME: A GUIDE 🧵
This is a mega thread on the theory and mechanics behind shame, along with some techniques and practices for how to work with and clear it from the mind and body.
What you are trying to do in learning emotional literacy is to begin to understand this mapping of physical sensations in your body to predispositions towards particular classes of behaviour.