emotional intelligence

the core skill of emotional literacy is paying attention to feelings in order to determine what emotions you are currently experiencing.

The short version is that you definitely have emotions…and not understanding them makes it very hard to understand your own behaviour.

Just get good at paying attention to bodily sensations. It might help to actually try saying things out loud, or writing them down, just going through a list of everything you notice about how your body feels right now. What you will tend to notice over time is that there are certain characteristic familiar patterns of how you are feeling.