emotional (dis)investment
Now it takes more energy, more audacity, more spectacle to jolt us out of our malaise—and that’s where bad taste comes in.
time • Welcome to the Era of Unapologetic Bad Taste
how it’s critical to have people in your life who love you and see you when you’re fun and sparkly and on top of the world, but also love you when you’re stagnant and petulant and self-sabotaging and letting them down. It’s about how that kind of love makes you believe in other kinds of love. It’s about how the essential texture of life is, yes,
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Applicable to more than people
Care is what creates the possibility of purposeful action. Care is what issues forth in meaningful knowledge of the world and others. Care is ultimately what transforms the quality of our involvement and engagement with the world so that we pass from “getting things done” to living.
L. M. Sacasas • Waste Your Time, Your Life May Depend On It Waste Your Time, Your Life May Depend On It
This state of affairs goes beyond compassion fatigue. Our around-the-clock overexposure to global human suffering, our daily feed of what we once considered catastrophic events — political, ecological, cultural — when combined with diminished attention spans, smaller and smaller chunks of content, and baked-in cross-platform imperatives to remain
... See moreHeather Havrilesky • The Rise of Emotional Divestment
Nevertheless, we need to keep showing our vulnerable hearts to each other. The stakes are enormous. We need more chances to connect and bond with each other in public. We need reminders that total control and complete divestment from others isn’t possible and it certainly isn’t desirable. We need to learn how to forgive each other and reassure each
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Caring is an independent primary variable . You have to care first before agreeing or disagreeing can mean anything. And to do that you have to have a surplus capacity to care beyond caring about yourself, by working the “caring muscle.”
Venkatesh Rao • Venkatesh Rao on Substack
The problem is, of course, that you cannot simply decide to care about something. If you do not care about something, your will cannot simply establish a caring relationship to that thing. It is rather a question of being open to possibilities of caring
Lars Svendsen • Being bored
Having someone care about you makes you want to give a shit, especially if you’re having trouble caring about yourself.
Kate Racculia • Tuesday Mooney Talks To Ghosts
The problem is not one of caring. Even the people with whom I vehemently disagree probably care. I concede that. The problem is what they care about more and how little it matters how much the rest of us care.