cultivating style
People have different preferences in different parts of their lives. Famous online, but anonymous in their neighborhood. Generous with time, but stingy with money. Introvert when working, but extrovert when not. You have to know your preferences
Hell_Yeah_or_No • Sivers
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Travel writer Freya Stark on how to have style:
"Style—to renounce all but the essential, so that the essential may speak."
James Clear • 3-2-1: On Self-Worth, How to Have Style, and How to Build a Great Career
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on style
Attend to your influences.
I suppose this is the ur-message - to be more aware of what’s influencing you and how. Acknowledge just how much of what you think, feel and do is picked up from others, consciously and unconsciously, and try to become more conscious of more of them. Artists pay attention to this because they love their influences, while a
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Let me phrase what I’ve been saying in this essay in a slightly different way. What you want to create is a distributed apprenticeship in the art of being you. You want to assemble a set of influences you can observe and imitate, and peers and mentors that can give you feedback on how well you converge with that model of yourself.
Henrik Karlsson • First We Shape Our Social Graph; Then It Shapes Us
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work as childhood conditioned self-worth
I’ve observed a lot of work trauma as rooted in relationships to our efforts in childhood. our relationship to work is tied to ways in which we felt safe and able to express our creativity, or not.
from a young age, we’re conditioned to equate our work to self-worth — trying hard enough and doing enough beca... See more
I’ve observed a lot of work trauma as rooted in relationships to our efforts in childhood. our relationship to work is tied to ways in which we felt safe and able to express our creativity, or not.
from a young age, we’re conditioned to equate our work to self-worth — trying hard enough and doing enough beca... See more
Kening Zhu • feeling safe in creative work & business — kening zhu
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The artist who’s into discipline If you expect criticism in advance and take pride in your unusual stance, you can bash on with a smile, being who you want to be. Then every time they say you’re wrong, that’s a sign you’re doing it right. sive.rs/wrong 15
Hell_Yeah_or_No • Sivers
Mickey Patel added 3mo
You don’t have writer’s block. You’re just scared to say what you actually think. As my friend Jeremy Giffon says: “The best writing prompt for when I'm stuck is simply ‘be more honest.”
David Perell • 31 Ways to Improve Your Writing
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I know a painting coach who tells her students to listen for resistance in the copying process. “Do you hear that?” she asks. “It’s the echo of your unique style.” Those moments highlight the second benefit of copying: it reveals your voice.
Ironically, the more we imitate others, the more we discover how we’re different.
David Perell • Daily Writing #27: Imitate, Then Innovate
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