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Welcome to Talking Points for Life
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The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
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19 Things You Can Say to People in 10 Seconds That Sometimes Produce Insanely Outsized Effects
1. Yeah, someone *should* do that. Why not you?
2. Is there something you could do about that problem in the next five minutes?
3. That's a great thought - have you written it up somewhere? I'd be excited to share it if so.
4. Should you write a blog or
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Roughly match the tempo, volume, and style of others
One thing I’ve learned to do intuitively is match the tempo of someone I’m talking to—I can’t do it perfectly, but I try. If they’re quiet, meek, and deliberate, I refrain from overpowering them. If they’re fast and snappy and loud, I try to keep up. This is pretty crucial. If you stomp all over... See more
One thing I’ve learned to do intuitively is match the tempo of someone I’m talking to—I can’t do it perfectly, but I try. If they’re quiet, meek, and deliberate, I refrain from overpowering them. If they’re fast and snappy and loud, I try to keep up. This is pretty crucial. If you stomp all over... See more
from Sasha Chapin
How to criticize something you disagree with
Here are social psychologist Anatol Rapoport’s rules for criticizing something:
You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.”
You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are... See more
Here are social psychologist Anatol Rapoport’s rules for criticizing something:
You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.”
You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are... See more
Good conversation tips:
“If we had 5 mins left, what would you want to have had covered ” gets to the meat earlier
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the one reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
When someone confronts you w/ a problem they have with you
What I heard was