Conversations

The art and science of having effective, joyful conversations

good conversations have emergent properties

Novelist and writer Francine Prose on hard conversations:

"Sometimes being in a car, looking at the road, not having to make eye contact, is the ideal setting for heavy conversation."

Source: A Changed Man

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Understanding Others' Emotions | Lisa Feldman Barrett

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A fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution? Will 100% use this phrase going forward.

Instead of asking: "Do you have any questions?", ask "What questions do you have?" The first almost always results in silence, while the second helps people feel comfortable asking questions.

alex and

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How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success…

Leil Lowndes goodreads.com

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A friend asked a Busy Guy to lead a project, and instead of saying yes or rejecting it, the Busy Guy said: “I can’t commit to that, but I can commit to thinking about it, and if I come up with something I’m excited about, I’ll do it.”

Such tact in that answer.

-DP

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Going from being a good listener to a great listener

Sasha Chapin sashachapin.substack.com

Stuart Evans

If you want to see your world transform, practice disagreeing without a hint of being disagreeable. It's a cheat code for life.

Brent Beshore twitter.com

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