Community-building (vs social media)

Q: When do we start caring about what people think of us? Why? (Attention to lens of developmental psychology)

Everyone always says “Stop caring about what people think” and I don’t think that’s the answer. Why do we care? Because it’s survival. We can’t shut it all out. We can be selective though

I am only 23, and already I am grieving a life I’ve been disloyal to; too busy auditioning for all the ones I could have instead. I’m haunted by the time I’ve given to this never-ending feed.

- The hunger to be everything. (Substack)

“The final quarter of this year saw significant criticism of how the online village-ism of social media has killed the individual experience and in turn personal style.”

- “The Cost of Convenience…” (Substack)

Serious vulnerability is not just talking about how you were struggling at some point, or that you were overwhelmed with emotion previously but are fine now—it’s sharing these things as they are happening, expressing your anger and anxiety and sadness while you still haven’t resolved them.

- Give your friends a chance to abandon you (Substack)

Our skin aches for mornings that begin with the light of dawn and not that of a screen. Before our feet touch the earth, our eyes have already wandered into someone else’s world. We didn’t notice when we stopped living and began watching others. We’ve become spectators of everyone and participants in nothing of our own.

- The hunger to be

They said choice would taste like freedom, but not that it’s an addictive sweetness. One that rots the stomach, until even our gut-instincts lose their sense of direction. We do not just suffer from an abundance of options, we suffer from a lack of commitment.

- The hunger to be everything. (Substack)