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For the mind, it’s all about finding short-term relief, sometimes at the cost of long-term pain. That’s why the mind of an insecure partner, for example, demands reassurance. It gets short-term relief even as it’s creating a long-term problem.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
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Social psychologists have already figured that out. ''What you lose with text is the dynamic of the behavior,'' said Dr. Jon E. Grahe of Monmouth College in Monmouth, Ill. Words are largely irrelevant in determining rapport, he said. Nonverbal communication is what counts. ''With nonverbals, there's motion and activity.''
On the Internet, Love Really Is Blind (Published 2001)
Another study, aptly titled “I’m Sad You’re Sad,” found that if you are in a negative mood when you text-message your partner, they are likely to pick up on it and experience a lower mood state themselves.
Brad Stulberg • The Practice of Groundedness
Another study found that college students in 2010 were 40 percent less empathetic than students from 30 years earlier. A big contributor to this is undoubtedly the rise of technology and social media, which encourages fleeting superficial connection, not empathy.
In another study, researchers put multiple pairs of strangers in a room together and
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Although texting has a useful element of privacy (after all, you can’t be overheard when you text), it doesn’t have quite the same sense of intimacy that speech-based communication obviously has.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
Has the invention of the text message corroded our culture? I remember when texting first came out, and there was ambiguity on when to do which. Texting is the most flexible and the least confrontational, and so we default to that and no one makes casual phone calls anymore.
Imagine if texting were only an option after a missed call? You made the
... See moreBecause texts generally occur between two parties and on private devices, they are intimate. Because they transmit instantly and in short utterances, texts resemble conversations. But texts are also depersonalized, carrying few traces of the physical person behind them—no face, no voice, no handwriting. You cannot be certain whether a recipient is... See more
Unknown • All My Exes Live in Texts
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