communication
I’d like to think that when we get exciting news, we reach for the phone and call that person we have on speed dial, instead of immediately opening an app to announce it to the world. I don’t want those closest to me to learn about a big milestone in my life through an Instagram post — I want them to be across from me on the couch, with our feet... See more
it's ok to be curated
Oversharing, to me, is
- when I’m avoiding the death of a conversation so I share information about myself to keep it going
- when I’m sharing this information coming from a desire for attention, validation, or a lack of awareness
- the belief that openness is synonymous with authenticity
- pouring my heart out to acquaintances and strangers, convinced that
I stopped oversharing and my life got better for it
We don’t give other people credit for the same interior complexity we take for granted in ourselves, the same capacity for holding contradictory feelings in balance, for complexly alloyed affections, for bottomless generosity of heart and petty, capricious malice. We can’t believe that anyone could be unkind to us and still be genuinely fond of us,... See more
In twenty-first-century Britain, we've linked singing with talent, and we've got that fundamentally wrong. The right to sing is an absolute, regardless of how it sounds to the outside world. We sing because we must. We sing because it fills our lungs with nourishing air, and lets our heart soar with the notes we let out. We sing because it allows
... See moreWhen I started feeling the drag of winter, I began to treat myself like a favoured child: with kindness and love. I assumed my needs were reasonable, and that my feelings were signals of something important. I kept myself well fed, and made sure I was getting enough sleep. I took myself for walks in the fresh air, and spent time doing things that
... See moreI stopped oversharing and my life got better for it
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