communication

We don’t give other people credit for the same interior complexity we take for granted in ourselves, the same capacity for holding contradictory feelings in balance, for complexly alloyed affections, for bottomless generosity of heart and petty, capricious malice. We can’t believe that anyone could be unkind to us and still be genuinely fond of us,... See more

I’d like to think that when we get exciting news, we reach for the phone and call that person we have on speed dial, instead of immediately opening an app to announce it to the world. I don’t want those closest to me to learn about a big milestone in my life through an Instagram post — I want them to be across from me on the couch, with our feet... See more

Oversharing, to me, is

• when I’m avoiding the death of a conversation so I share information about myself to keep it going


• when I’m sharing this information coming from a desire for attention, validation, or a lack of awareness


• the belief that openness is synonymous with authenticity


• pouring my heart out to acquaintances and strangers, convinced that

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