to communicate well

It’s wise to slow down, to let things take time, to quiet the stories our minds tell us about another based on the small pieces we see. It’s wise to ask good questions to truly know who they are and what they mean when they say certain things, to extend grace + compassion 4/4

Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other ‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.