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We’ve been taught to keep our lives fragmented, work friends here, gym friends there, chosen family over there. But what if this habit keeps us more isolated than we realize? When we over-curate our social spaces, we miss out on the magic of organic community: relationships evolving naturally, connections deepening... See more

For so many of us, queer community has meant showing up for each other in moments of crisis or celebration: at protests, in movement spaces, on the dance floor. But what about the quiet moments? The boring moments? The Tuesday afternoons when you just need to cry or sit on the couch with someone? Deep relationships... See more

Workshop sale is live!!! Link in bio or comment “workshop” for the deets!! If healing was something we could do alone, most of us would’ve finished by now. We’ve journaled, gone to therapy, and cut off people. But something’s still not shifting, because healing in isolation will never fully resolve what was broken in... See more

I said yesterday that not every rupture needs to be repaired. But do you know if you’re avoiding or discerning? It’s one of the hardest questions to answer. Especially if trauma taught you that silence is safety and shame is clarity. In my 3-hour live workshop Relational Skills for... See more

✨Relational skills are the key to dismantling empire. One of the biggest lies we’ve been told is that we need empire to survive. The truth? We need each other. Learning to rely on each other not broken systems is how we reclaim power, build liberation, and weaken the empire’s hold on... See more

White people, particularly wealthy white men have had access to therapy and mental health treatment for over 300 years. It was de-stigmatized for them before Black people even had legal access to mental healthcare. Meanwhile, Black people have only had mainstream, de-stigmatized access for about 20-30 years. This means... See more

If you’ve ever been taught that emotional expression is dangerous, especially when it comes from Black women, poor folks, or the people you grew up around, this post is for you. Because what we call “unregulated” is often just “uncomfortable.” And what we call “unsafe” is often just what we’ve been taught to fear when... See more

I’ve been told my whole life that my anger is dangerous. That rage makes me unwell. That if I want to be seen as healthy or wise or healing, I need to quiet down. But here’s what no one told me: silence might keep the peace, but rage can keep you whole. Rage has saved my life more times than... See more

Rage isn’t a failure of regulation.It isn’t proof you’re broken. It’s proof you’re alive. This culture rewards compliance and calls it calm. But for those of us navigating oppression, trauma, and erasure, calm has never been the full story. Sometimes rage is what keeps our relationships... See more