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The problem of toxic shame is ultimately a spiritual problem.
“Has all this suffering, this dying around us, a meaning? For, if not, then ultimately there is no meaning to survival; for a life whose meaning depends upon such a happenstance—as whether one escapes or not—ultimately would not be worth living at all.”
She was fascinated with women who martyred themselves. But then, to look at it a different way, she was fascinated with women who gave themselves over to revolutions.
My heart was skipping in my throat. I knew that anger. How had I managed to find it in Ohio?

This is the dominant motive of martyrs. They give to get love, and when they don’t get it, they feel abandoned.
I sit beside the fire and think of how the world will be when winter comes without a spring that I shall ever see.
A toxically shamed person is divided within himself and must create a false-self cover-up to hide his sense of being flawed and defective. You cannot offer yourself to another person if you do not know who you really are.
This finding has been reproduced innumerable times since then, and in 2013 slow-wave prefrontal activity was certified by the Food and Drug Administration as a biomarker for ADHD. Slow frontal lobe electrical activity explains why these kids have poor executive functioning: Their rational brains lack proper control over their emotional brains,
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