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For example, when Paul sets boundaries on Meredith’s demands, he forces her to become more independent.

You need the wisdom to know what is you and what is not you. Pray for the wisdom to know the difference between what you have the power to change and what you do not.

There is no in-between safe space of “not racist.” The claim of “not racist” neutrality is a mask for racism.

The problem of toxic shame is ultimately a spiritual problem.

This finding has been reproduced innumerable times since then, and in 2013 slow-wave prefrontal activity was certified by the Food and Drug Administration as a biomarker for ADHD. Slow frontal lobe electrical activity explains why these kids have poor executive functioning: Their rational brains lack proper control over their emotional brains,

This is the dominant motive of martyrs. They give to get love, and when they don’t get it, they feel abandoned.

In my search for an honest way to write about race, I wanted to comfort the afflicted, but more than that, I wanted to afflict the comfortable; I wanted to make them squirm in shame, probably because I too identify with the comfortable.