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Opinion | The Essential Skills for Being Human
nytimes.comThe real act of, say, building a friendship or creating a community involves performing a series of small, concrete social actions well: disagreeing without poisoning the relationship; revealing vulnerability at the appropriate pace; being a good listener; knowing how to end a conversation gracefully; knowing how to ask for and offer forgiveness;
... See moreDavid Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
Focus on mutuality rather than reciprocity. It not a 1:1 as we have different capacities and different things to offer. There’s an alchemy in figuring out how mutuality will work.
And I didn’t limit my gratitude to my romantic relationship; I focused on why I was grateful for all my relationships. This really helped me “de-special” my romantic relationship. I made it a point to reach out to my family and friends and acknowledge how much I loved them. When I looked at my friends and family with gratitude and appreciation, I
... See moreGabrielle Bernstein • Spirit Junkie: A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles
One of the reasons relationships fail is because we do have unrealistic expectations going into them, fueled by myths about “the one” true love who’s going to be our “everything.” Polyamorous people recognize this fallacy and respect each person’s capabilities and limits when it comes to what they can give. Instead of attempting to change someone,
... See moreTristan Taormino • Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

The goal is to make time for what matters, find more balance, and enjoy today a little more.