almost (essay)
“It’s terrifying to accept the essential otherness of the people we care for. But what is even more terrifying is admitting to yourself that in spite of the bridge you think you’ve crossed — in spite of the fact that time, and you, and their commitment to you, have converted them from a stranger into the person you know the best in the world — in
... See morePsychologists generally agree that similarity isn’t a good predictor of romantic compatibility. Nor is “complementarity”; opposites don’t necessarily attract. Gaps, then, aren’t a hugely helpful frame with which to consider relationships at all. And besides, isn’t it a bit navel-gazey to think so much about yourself in comparison to others? Freud... See more
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The funny thing is, most of us aren’t single because of how we look or what we weigh, our level of education or job description, or whether we asked the guy out first or waited three days to return his call. We’re single because we have this underlying belief that we need to be completely in synch with our mates, and if we’re not, we should find
... See moreLori Gottlieb • Mr Good Enough: The case for choosing a Real Man over holding out for Mr Perfect
the thing about dating in your 30s is that you are a fully formed human looking for anther fully formed human. of course, some people are probably looking for less formed people who are malleable and bend to their will but i’m not interested in them. when you’re 17, you fall into a life with someone else. it becomes obvious and easy, why wouldn’t
... See moreSome days belong to almosts. A scattering of incompleteness gathers across days, across hands, across the glass distance between people. It begins with a to-do list, the last thing refusing to resolve, undoing itself into something less held, like rain deciding before returning to air, like the laundry appearing and disappearing on a balcony I
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