This is what nobody tells you: commitment is an act of agency . We often get through life comforted by the thought that we have the ability to make choices, theoretically . But there's a peculiar magic that happens when you actually exercise that choice: the world shifts on its axis. You make active choices about how to use your time, energy, and... See more
biggest joke of my life… after years and years of trying so hard, i can just unclench the sense of doing anything and
1. my “willpower” increases dramatically
2. i get better at pretty much everything
(this is not the same thing as non-coercion!)
Even if you work inside the system, you don’t need to let the system work inside of you. And if you summon up the boldness to go in a different direction, others might even surprise you by following along.
there are 2 (main) ways to work with emotional bottlenecks*:
1. direct emotional processing –– deliberately feel the emotion you're avoiding
2. reality engaged processing i.e. processing emotion thru action –– create tiny, manageable encounters with the scary situation & let
Agency and self-efficacy are deeply intertwined, like the will to act (agency) and the belief that you can succeed (self-efficacy). They reinforce each other in a feedback loop, but they aren’t the same thing.
How They Influence Each Other
Self-Efficacy Fuels Agency
If you believe you can accomplish something, you're more likely to take action .
Very simply put: don’t let action be the only thing separating you from those that are building the life you dream of. If you can take a small step today, do it. I promise it could be the one little tiny thing that kicks off a domino effect leading to great things later on.