Cleon

You have to want the lifestyle, not just the outcomes. Otherwise, it doesn't make any sense being jealous. The results of success are usually public and highly visible, but the process behind success is often private and hidden from view. It's easy to want the public rewards, but also have to want the hidden costs."

"A great relationship is not only finding the person you have fun with, but also finding the person you want to be bored with. The beauty of long-term relationships is often hidden in boring, ordinary moments."

I personally struggle with Metta practice as it can feel a bit new agey for me but another thing I do sometimes is I sit in a coffee shop or some other suitable people watching place. I watch people go by and I find at least one thing I like about everyone I notice, that lady has beautiful hair, I like the colour of that guys jacket, this person lo... See more

we know that we are unable accurately to introspect about the workings of our minds. We thematize the results of our introspection in certain ways. One way we tend to thematize the experience of a particular intention is to adopt it as a product that arises solely from some exercise of free (causally-exempt) will.

The greatest sign of an ill-regulated mind is to believe things because you wish them to be so.”

— Louis Pasteur

With kids it's impossible not to worry, but I always try to keep things in a sort of universal perspective. The world and its ills were here long before we were born and will be here long after we're gone. Protecting your own inner state is of paramount importance, so you do your humble part, but shake off the rest. Many are out there wanting to cl... See more

"If you could just change one thing in your child’s life, it would be to give them autonomy. Humans spent 200,000 years as hunter-gatherers. That’s where our brains evolved. That’s where we evolved in this context. If you look on lots of different continents, children have enormous amounts of autonomy in these communities, which implies that that’s... See more

briefly imagine losing what you have and take for granted. So perhaps losing your home, prized possessions, ability to use your legs or your nearest and dearest. Not to dwell on it but to imagine it briefly. So close you eyes and visualise it for a moment or two, try and make it real in your mind and see how that feels. I would caution that if feel... See more