Rules for communities that prioritize intention and thoughtfulness. Though mentioned in context of community building, these can be very effective for managing a classroom or learning environment:

1. An artful rule protects what's precious.

2. An artful rule draws helpful (and sometimes controversial) distinctions.

3. Artful rules are shared at the threshold, before anyone enters.

4. An artful rule thinks three steps ahead of the guest.

5. An artful rule is culture-creating.
   

The questions from the article:

1. “What did you learn today?” vs. “What did you disagree with today?”

2. “What did you accomplish this week?” vs. “What did you fail at this week?”

3. “Here’s how you do that.” vs. “How would you solve this problem?”

4. “Here’s your new kindergarten” vs. “What kindergarten do you want to attend?”

5. “That’s just the way it is.” vs. “Great question. Why don’t you figure out the answer?”

6. “You can’t do that.” vs. “What would it take to do that?”

7. “Did you make a new friend today?” vs. “How did you help someone today?”

From the article:

• Engage them early in lively conversation.

• Play ​card, board or videogames that ​build​ working memory.

• Stress the intrinsic rewards of learning rather than grades.

• Frame a bad grade as a reason to work harder.

• Enroll them in schools where intelligence is seen as fluid rather than fixed.

• Teach them that their ability is under their control.

“Oliver, came in to ask for screen time. Instead of saying the usual ‘no’, I stopped writing and asked if I could play with him.” — Don’t say “no” to screen time without offering playtime.

Brings to mind how lots of generative AI will usher in a whole new level of convenience for even more tasks. Powerful quote:

Today’s cult of convenience fails to acknowledge that difficulty is a constitutive feature of human experience. Convenience is all destination and no journey. But climbing a mountain is different from taking the tram to the top, even if you end up at the same place. We are becoming people who care mainly or only about outcomes. We are at risk of making most of our life experiences a series of trolley rides.