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Heat does not move from hot things to cold things due to an absolute law: it does so only with a large degree of probability. The reason for this is that it is statistically more probable that a quickly moving atom of the hot substance collides with a cold one and leaves it a little of its energy, rather than vice versa. Energy is conserved in the

Many of our ancient teachings counsel that whatever we have been given is supposed to be given away again. From the viewpoint of a private property economy, the “gift” is deemed to be “free” because we obtain it free of charge, at no cost. But in the gift economy, gifts are not free. The essence of the gift is that it creates a set of relationships

The myth of independence also shapes what literature looks like and what kind of writing is valued. We see a novel as better than a short story anthology. We rarely see collaborations in fiction or in poetry. Our literary praxis is that of the lone author typing away by themselves. Our poetics come from solitary brilliant minds. We still cling as a

If you are in a relationship, or desire to be in a relationship—particularly a long-term one—that relationship is going to evolve. Your partner(s) will almost certainly have an internal journey around their sexuality—their experience of desire, what they like and don’t like, who they find themselves attracted to, their fantasies. You cannot stop th

A very short definition of codependency is trying to control another person’s emotions and behaviors so we don’t have to experience our own painful feelings. If I can get you to stay close to me, I won’t have to feel the frightening abandonment that is lurking inside me (anxious person). If I can stay far enough away from you, I won’t have to exper

A facilitator’s role is not to make everyone comfortable. Our job is to help people through their discomfort while using all of the knowledge and feelings in the room to make meaning and take actions informed by the learning.

The longer we know our partner, the better we understand who they are; or, at least, that’s what we like to think. In reality, we all begin to develop and fill in pictures of who we believe our partner is. In other words, we create a “frame” for how we see each other. ‘He is strong and stable,’ ‘She wants to control me,’

Without community, there is no liberation...but community must not mean a shedding of our differences, nor the pathetic pretense that these differences do not exist.